madeline levine

i like pretty much everything she has to say:

“The optimal parent is one who is involved and responsive, who sets high expectations but respects her child’s autonomy. ”

“The happiest, most successful children have parents who do not do for them what they are capable of doing, or almost capable of doing; and their parents do not do things for them that satisfy their own needs rather than the needs of the child.”

“If you can’t stand to see your child unhappy, you are in the wrong business.”

“If pushing, direction, motivation and reward always come from the outside, the child never has the opportunity to craft an inside.”

“Parents also have to make sure their own lives are fulfilling. There is no parent more vulnerable to the excesses of overparenting than an unhappy parent. One of the most important things we do for our children is to present them with a version of adult life that is appealing and worth striving for.”


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